No one really knows what to expect when having a baby. One thing new parents learn quickly is that an unsettled baby makes you second-guess everything. It can be really challenging trying to figure out the needs of this tiny, vulnerable person you’ve just met. And it breaks your heart when it feels nothing you …
Dear Mama (with a baby that won’t sleep), Let me guess… it’s 2 am and your little one has woken up four times already since you put him down at 7 pm (the time that all the sleep books tell us they should go to bed). You’re so tired it takes you a few minutes …
There’s no doubt about it, being a new mom is hard work. Regardless of whether it’s baby number one or baby number five, each time you add a new babe to your family, the new mom cycle kicks in again. Each addition brings new challenges, but also new confidence. It’s always easier looking back with …
To say I was nervous about going from being a mum of one to becoming a mum of two is a major understatement. Add in a good dose of anxiety and I can guarantee you if there was a concern to be had about doubling my number of children, I assure you I had it. …
I don’t usually like focusing on the whole idea of ‘mistakes’. I honestly believe than Moms choose the option they believe to be best at the time, with the information they’re given. But that’s the thing, if we don’t know, we don’t know. And when we’re knee deep in this whole new mama gig, it’s …
If you have ever experienced vulnerability with another, where if there are two people (sometimes more), you’re both exposed and vulnerable, then maybe you already know the look or gaze that occurs between the one that is witnessing and the one that is enduring, The experience of, ‘Am I being seen? Am I being heard? …
I’m sure you’ve heard it before… the line where someone says to you ‘oh, you’ll know’. Like somehow you magically download all of this information into your brain once your baby is born and you venture into motherhood. Well, I clearly missed that upgrade… and found myself more often than not looking at my baby …
There’s a lot of information available for couples during the pregnancy phase and during labour. Information about how to communicate and stay connected, how to involve your husband or partner, and things you should decide on together. But what about after your baby is born? Wing it? Take it as it comes? Deal with things …
Motherhood is transformative. I’ve personally known the full force of this since the birth of my first child. In SO many ways, it’s beautifully transformative. But… in lots of ugly, unpleasant ways too. My husband once said to me, very naively but honestly, “if having a baby affects our sex life, I think that might …
We spend so much time during pregnancy focusing on each trimester, counting the weeks as they go by, taking the photos of the growing belly and comparing your baby to what size fruit or vegetable they best represent. Then we spend time preparing for labour and birth… but what about after that? What about those …